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I'm an extreme person.

For the most part, I'm either happy or sad, talkative or quiet, productive or lazy.

As you can tell, there isn't a whole lot of gray area.

My ambition constantly gets the best of me, which means adopting an "all-or-nothing" mindset can be even more dangerous.

For example, if I wake up feeling less-than-stellar, there's a good chance my morning routine will completely crumble. It's hard for me to simply check off a few tasks and call it a day.

As I get older, I'm learning not to be so hard on myself - things happen and no one is perfect.

This doesn't mean we can't hold ourselves to a higher expectation. Instead, we must do one of two things:

1. Manage our own expectations
2. Change our actions so they rise to meet those expectations

For me, this means embracing the messy middle. It means being OK with getting something accomplished even if I have to push a few things off until tomorrow.

Life doesn't have to be all-or-nothing - it can be filled with an imperfect something.

After all, something is better than nothing.

Peace of mind

All I want is a little more peace of mind.

What exactly is keeping me from this?

Obscure health issues, professional uncertainty, the list goes on and on.

At the moment, my answer is to create a more stable income for myself.

When we hear, "Money can't buy you happiness," we forget that it can buy you something else:


During this time, we can explore, create, learn, live with intention, and ultimately find peace of mind.

I'll be the first to admit: I can usually handle individual problems fairly well, but the real issue is when these stressors overlap and eventually come to a head.

This is when I lose my peace of mind. Instead of strategically picking apart each problem, I become overwhelmed and switch into survival mode. This is the last place you want to be because, instead of thinking long-term, you are simply finding quick fixes that don't add up.

We all deal with issues in our own ways. If we pause to find out why we don't have peace of mind, we can use this as a starting point for living a more intentional life. 

Love it or fix it

I was recently asked an unusual question during an interview:

"How will you fail here?"

Before opening my mouth, I paused for a few seconds.

Plenty of companies claim they support "failing fast" and learning from failure, but how many actually provide ways in which people can productively fumble?

I answered by admitting that, at times, I may be a little too eager to execute on ideas and my impatience could end up getting the best of me.

Seemingly satisfied with my answer, he went on to talk about how he uses one simple phrase:

Love it or fix it.

I can't tell you how close I was to jumping out of my chair and giving this man a hug.

As someone who is still developing a bias towards action, I can confidently say most people complain about problems without offering up solutions.

I get it. After all, it's much easier to focus on problems instead of creating thoughtful solutions - it's the path of least resistance.

Since hearing these simple words, I have already taken steps towards identifying the parts of my life I don't love and doing something about them.

What about your life don't you love? What will you do to fix it?

Seeking opportunity

Opportunity is a funny thing.

When you can't find it, there really doesn't seem to be any around for miles.

On the flip side, whenever you find a little, there is always more on the way.

Whether you're looking for a new job or simply searching for a new project, opportunity tends to follow preparation or, at the very least, some amount of effort.

That's why whenever I am looking for new opportunity, I never stop once I've found one option - I always aim to give myself more eggs in more baskets.

In other words, I try to diversify as much as possible.

You will never regret giving yourself too many choices in life, especially when it comes to finding or creating your own path.

Remember, in this case, more is more.

Make things tangible

I think about the future a lot.

Personally, I want to help create a smaller world connected by ideas.

This might sound great, but if you ask me, it's still a little too nebulous.

How exactly am I going to create this world? Where am I going to start? Who is going to help me?

See? I may think about what my life looks like today and what it will look like 10 years from now, but what about everything in between?

The hardest part about changing the world is making things tangible.

Nothing amazing has ever happened without tangible steps. Don't believe me?

Do you think the airplane just randomly flew into existence? Did we all wake up one day with modern medicine? Were Pop Tarts created by magic?

I think you get my point. All life-changing inventions start with tangible steps.

Sure, there's a good chance these steps weren't even realized until after the inventor got started, but they were eventually captured or jotted down.

Do you want to change the world? Start with the first, tangible step.

"Organic" opportunities

I've noticed something funny over the years:

Opportunities tend to "organically" pop up whenever I put myself out there.

This might seem pretty obvious, but it's harder than you think.

As someone who has created my own path for a while now, asking for help doesn't always come second nature. I tend to beat my head against the wall until I find an answer on my own, usually by brute force.

Instead, whenever I'm going through a rough patch, my first instinct should be to reach out and ask for what I need.

I decided to try this recently while looking for a potential full-time gig and the amount of support I've seen is overwhelming.

People really are willing to help as long as you're willing to put yourself out there and ask.